A few weeks ago my husband told me with disbelief that he had received an email from the office manager at the place where he works, asking him what he wanted for his Christmas dinner this year at the annual knees up.

'It's ridiculous, I don't know what I want, it's 5 months away!' he said. But when I asked him what did he think he'd want, he said without pausing for thought; 'Well it'll be the prawn cocktail, turkey dinner and the Christmas pud'.  And you know without checking the menu they will all be there.

So my point is this, generally we do know what we want, we just need to ask ourselves a simple question.

So if you have a particular niggle, problem, stumbling block, or just something you want to change, ask yourself; 'What do I want instead?'

This question, can help you change the 'neg' into a positive and desirable statement. (I want to lose a stone = I want to be fit and healthy) Once you see it as something more attractive, you are more likely to start making changes to achieve it. The next step is to write a list of all the actions you could take (eat my 5 a day; drink 8 glasses of water, limit my daily tea intake to 2 and so on). Choose your preferred actions and go for it! In fact, if the actions are appealing, you may not be able to stop yourself. All of a sudden you could be moving towards something really exciting.

Talking of which, it's only 4 months away now...

Lisa